tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7081163247094703505.post1936983886865185734..comments2023-04-07T06:23:59.516-04:00Comments on Shades of Grey: AlternadatingShades of Greyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02733139852424935591noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7081163247094703505.post-71363667002685081372010-03-09T19:16:20.187-05:002010-03-09T19:16:20.187-05:00I think that at the beginning it's really awkw...I think that at the beginning it's really awkward for anyone else to join the date besides the guy and the girl on the date. Once things get serious, however, I think it's a great way for the couple to meet each other's friends. And I agree with the point that friends and relatives often offer insights that you might otherwise miss.<br /><br />I once heard a story about a guy and a girl who were on a date in a resteraunt and they ran into the girl's grandparents. The grandparents said hi, and were happy to go their separate ways, but the guy offered the grandparents to join them. The girl thought that was really sweet, and so did the grandparents. Now they are married and the grandparents are thrilled.SternGradhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04629199158696400120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7081163247094703505.post-21801139637101943802010-03-09T14:03:12.875-05:002010-03-09T14:03:12.875-05:00I don't think anyone really plans on having a ...I don't think anyone really plans on having a break-up as future itinerary, and it would certainly be foolish to express anything contrary to those feelings which would then lead the other person on.<br /><br />To clarify, this is clearly talking about a case of more serious dating, with a month or two or three under your belt - when you might be thinking this could go long term. In that case it is important to get friends and people you know and trust to meet the guy/girl you're going out with. This is merely discussion of potential possibilities other than the standard sharing a shabbos meal at someone's house for together.Shades of Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02733139852424935591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7081163247094703505.post-79775729635118644112010-03-09T02:16:38.145-05:002010-03-09T02:16:38.145-05:00I agree with FrumJew.
It's beyond awkward and...I agree with FrumJew. <br />It's beyond awkward and can makes matters even more complicated if a break-up is included in the future itinerary.Sefardi Galhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03041724538794932296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7081163247094703505.post-5997042197796775152010-03-09T00:56:27.118-05:002010-03-09T00:56:27.118-05:00To qualify: I would do it if it were two couples w...To qualify: I would do it if it were two couples who were at least post-engagement (post <i>official</i> engagement, at that). I would not take a girl out with another couple, even a sibling/spouse combo or best friend/spouse combo until after engagement.nobodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07673099548876125906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7081163247094703505.post-26699337097886621602010-03-09T00:53:44.646-05:002010-03-09T00:53:44.646-05:00Nononononononononono. No.Nononononononononono. No.nobodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07673099548876125906noreply@blogger.com