tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7081163247094703505.post8943949443370428034..comments2023-04-07T06:23:59.516-04:00Comments on Shades of Grey: A Dating Case Study: Dave and Buster'sShades of Greyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02733139852424935591noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7081163247094703505.post-26176315901265103382010-02-12T08:38:38.038-05:002010-02-12T08:38:38.038-05:00I love D & B. I love the games. I'm a girl...I love D & B. I love the games. I'm a girl.<br /><br />I always accept the prize at the end - regardless of whether I intend on going out again. Not that I want the overpriced stuffed animal, obviously, but because I always thought that was sort of expected of me. (And because I think it makes the guy feel badly otherwise.) <br /><br /> Side point: I usually win the car-racing game, and I have had some pretty sore loser-dates. Always find that really interesting.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7081163247094703505.post-24726450469445614682010-02-12T01:28:15.370-05:002010-02-12T01:28:15.370-05:00Jughead's Hat - the light game which has 4 col...Jughead's Hat - the light game which has 4 colors and requires you to stop the rotating light in between your little goal posts also can be won very easily. I had a cousin who could time it exactly and get the jackpot everytime (which really racks up the tickets).<br /><br />I happen to have figured out the best way to win at claw machine. After years of failed attempts, I finally developed the best strategy while at an arcade a number of years ago - and almost cleared out the machine. I don't do that well every time, because it really depends on how the stuffed animals are positioned, but I can basically win at least one.<br /><br />(not) The Girl Next Door - care to elaborate what seems odd?Shades of Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02733139852424935591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7081163247094703505.post-87147757956975306032010-02-11T21:49:40.388-05:002010-02-11T21:49:40.388-05:00Okay something about this post is weird.Okay something about this post is weird.(not) The Girl Next Doorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14259099741152470894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7081163247094703505.post-15056968469982503652010-02-11T20:18:03.636-05:002010-02-11T20:18:03.636-05:00The pool room in Dave and Busters is clean and oft...The pool room in Dave and Busters is clean and often vacant.<br /><br />The claw machines in D&B are difficult. I'm pretty good and I've only won once. I'm impressed that you could win with any consistancy.<br /><br />The trivia game is fun and lets tou know a little about the interests of your date which can be stowed away to bring up in a later conversation.<br /><br />I've been destroyed by a date on Guitar Hero.<br /><br />The ball-drop has a system to it to win an insane amount of tickets.<br /><br />Whenever I have gone to D&B on a date, the girl has made sure to tell me to not go easy on her in air hockey.<br /><br /><br />Deal or No Deal is an interesting debate topic. It's a fun game, but has the models on it. I usually play it, but I really do like standing with the date, watching someone else play it, and shout at them when it's decision time.<br /><br />It is very distracting if there is an important game on that night. I make sure to plan D&B dates if they are on no such night.Jughead's Hathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14634567023796038879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7081163247094703505.post-27540891051089358762010-02-11T18:02:53.723-05:002010-02-11T18:02:53.723-05:00I would not feel respected if I suspected a compet...I would not feel respected if I suspected a competition was thrown in my favor.lawschooldrunkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06981455538460795016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7081163247094703505.post-55776749292782846022010-02-11T08:05:43.631-05:002010-02-11T08:05:43.631-05:00I disagree. People, men and women, in general don&...I disagree. People, men and women, in general don't like to lose every competition. That being said, if you have to throw the match, you better do it carefully and not embarrass your date.<br />If you are woman and you are winning every competition, you should find a way to lose. It's not about female or male ego. And, it's not a Jewish or religious thing. It's about respect.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7081163247094703505.post-24481037712299368922010-02-11T01:50:00.993-05:002010-02-11T01:50:00.993-05:00And I agree with michal. It would be condescendin...And I agree with michal. It would be condescending to "allow" your date to win, even if you are not competitive. They can tell when you are trying to win and failing or letting them win.lawschooldrunkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06981455538460795016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7081163247094703505.post-67414801116908674962010-02-11T01:48:21.862-05:002010-02-11T01:48:21.862-05:00I have never gone to a D&B. I'm not reall...I have never gone to a D&B. I'm not really into video games. I imagine the only thing I would enjoy are mini-basketball hoops and air hockey, besides for sitting and having drinks.<br /><br />I have had much fun using miniature golf as a date. You can take the game slow or fast, talk between holes (there's usually a bench), and if she seems like she likes you, you can always go to the driving range (next to many miniature golf venues).<br /><br />There's also biking, hiking, rollerblading, etc.lawschooldrunkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06981455538460795016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7081163247094703505.post-9887351392129976792010-02-11T00:40:32.801-05:002010-02-11T00:40:32.801-05:00I've honestly never heard of that being a reas...I've honestly never heard of that being a reason against mixed seating at weddings. To prevent mingling/socializing, people staring at each other, etc - sure, but not because you're trying to hide the fact that both genders can get sweaty and increase their breathing rate from cardiovascular activity.Shades of Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02733139852424935591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7081163247094703505.post-70568852448605908532010-02-10T23:36:28.268-05:002010-02-10T23:36:28.268-05:00I definitely see the reluctance of girls to play D...I definitely see the reluctance of girls to play DDR on a date, even if nobody was around but the two of them. Aside from actuallyh being watched while actually dancing, there is also the sweat/breathing hard issue (I assume that can happen, but I've never played it myself so I might be totally off base here), which is one of the arguments against mixed seating at weddings.nobodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07673099548876125906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7081163247094703505.post-15550155218298803152010-02-10T22:39:07.388-05:002010-02-10T22:39:07.388-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.BJGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17284005539217450744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7081163247094703505.post-36765269883477165032010-02-10T21:20:39.383-05:002010-02-10T21:20:39.383-05:00I would be annoyed if I thought a guy let me win a...I would be annoyed if I thought a guy let me win at a game.Michaltastikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06358698308334285154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7081163247094703505.post-11626917448316815892010-02-10T21:15:44.597-05:002010-02-10T21:15:44.597-05:00Good point - the other people watching thing didn&...Good point - the other people watching thing didn't register with me. The location of the DDR machine in the Times Square Dave and Busters is actually pretty secluded - it's basically tucked away into a corner and surrounded by walls on three sides. I've seen other people being watched before, but it's usually friends of the people playing standing right behind them. <br /><br />Regarding the random breaking out into dance - that is definitely something I wouldn't necessarily expect a date to do, presuming that I've gotten enough of an impression regarding her personality from references and previous dates. Someone who is that into DDR and does get a bit crazy would quite possibly be not quite as modest as I had thought, or possibly a DDR fanatic who couldn't control herself - and I have yet to meet any frum girls who are DDR obsessed.Shades of Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02733139852424935591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7081163247094703505.post-74037978323559062192010-02-10T21:05:26.096-05:002010-02-10T21:05:26.096-05:00Although the girl's date might be too preoccup...Although the girl's date might be too preoccupied with the arrows, there are other people around as well who can watch. <br /><br />I suppose that if all the girl is doing is following the commands on the screen, it is more or less okay, but there are plenty of girls who do dance on the spot between commands instead of just jumping. Meaning, there are some who hop and some who make it into a little impromptu dance. <br /><br />I agree about bowling though -- that is also something I would not feel entirely comfortable doing.inkstainedhandshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09981049559995351307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7081163247094703505.post-36558611926883887752010-02-10T20:47:17.873-05:002010-02-10T20:47:17.873-05:00I would agree DDR is potentially on the slightly l...I would agree DDR is potentially on the slightly less appropriate side of things - but in reality when you're both playing at the same time there is no free moment to watch the other person at all. You're both looking straight ahead at the commands flying by on the screen in front of you. <br /><br />Having said that, it is certainly admirable to be aware of these issues. I'm definitely not out there trying to push boundaries or cause trouble. Rather, it's just as I said in the post - I'm trying see if my date is a bit more outgoing/adventurous.<br /><br />I would honestly rank bowling as being a lot more awkward in that sense since you're basically displaying your backside to your date for most of the evening. It's almost as though you're encouraging you date to engage in visual tresspassing.Shades of Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02733139852424935591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7081163247094703505.post-51913531907212121052010-02-10T20:09:08.291-05:002010-02-10T20:09:08.291-05:00That was a very interesting and informative post. ...That was a very interesting and informative post. I personally am not interested in games or arcades, but I suppose that if I find the person interesting enough, I would go along with it. <br /><br />I was only recently introduced to DDR, and I don't think I would feel comfortable doing it in front of a guy for modesty reasons. While, as you said, it is not technically mixed dancing, I would still be uncomfortable with it. <br /><br />My friends and I got together recently and took turns with it because we only had one dance pad between the few of us, and as we watched each other, we discussed whether it is okay to do it in front of guys. A few girls mentioned that they would feel uncomfortable with it, and I think that the general conclusion was that although it does not seem as if there is anything technically wrong with it, many of us felt that on some level, it was not the best thing to do. Of course, those were just personal feelings, and each girl decides for herself what she is comfortable with and what she's fine with doing.inkstainedhandshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09981049559995351307noreply@blogger.com